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  • Writer's pictureAngela N. Davis, MM, MTBC

Preview: H.E.R. Focus & FemRespite

Updated: Apr 15, 2019

Available soon, a community package including access to two premium blogs; H.E.R. Focus and FemRespite. These blogs narrate my personal journey through self-care and self-image, respectively. An intimate account of my struggles, how I think through them and what I do to practice better's a preview.


It's where it starts, but my relationship status with introspection is complicated.

Sometimes I look in, see something I don't like and stay conveniently neutral, on the fence and every shade of gray until I eventually turn outward to focus on the busyness of life.

So why try? Why torture myself? Because self-awareness is GOLDEN. It is protective and empowering. It helps with self-control and is a must for self-actualization.

Self-care is multifaceted, like a gem. When introspective, I'm aware of the physical, mental, relational and emotional self.

I love research and my psych-related classes from school. I always looked forward to those classes. They give me tools, something to gauge my progress. Other than my map (faith), and my mirrors (family/friends), Maslow's Hierarchy is one of my tools for self-evaluation.

...SongBird Says to find an app that will aid you in meditation. Build consistency. Use Maslow's Hierarchy to reflect on life.

"Self-care isn't just face masks and a beauty routine. It's the way you nurture your life and mental health from the inside out." -ShineText, Instagram


I've always had this sort of indignance inside of me, a fire, since I was young. And this very unique perspective. Several books, quotes from wiser women than I and self-care missions later, I recognize it as a fetal version of feminism.

When I first came across feminism as a concept I was reluctant. My attitue and mission has always been on of inclusiveness and humility. What I didn't understand is that unlike most "isms," feminism isn't about supremacy.

In my own heart, it's simply a concept of self-advocacy. A wise woman once said, "I'm a feminist. I've been a female for a long-time now, it'd be stupid not to be on my own side." That woman was the late great Dr. Maya Angelou. It's a beautiful simplicity, being on my own side. I believe, knowing my own heart, that this doesn't take away from or pit me against anyone else; it simply empowers and works to correct some flaws in what I've been taught based on my chromosomes. It also helps me to identify flaws in some societal perspectives.

"I'm a feminist. I've been a female for a long-time now, it'd be stupid not to be on my own side." -Dr. Maya Angelou

It's amazing what one can accomplish once you stop believing generalizations passed along from people who never knew you, or people you see everyday who never took time to get to know you. Never gave you a chance. People are onions, "one size fits all" doesn't work here, and some rules are made to be broken.

This blog is my journey in not being that person for myself. Not being my own hinderance in life by subscribing to faulty information. I hope this blog will challenge my thinking, challenge my practices, and lend itself as a tool of self-actualization. I wish these things for anyone who reads these words.

FemRes Challenge I: Read and review Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz; am I still in alignment with all of them?

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